Peace

27 Apr

In high school we enter as young, eager individuals excited to learn new things knowing that in four years we will graduate and move on.

In college we enter as young, eager individuals excited to learn new things, knowing that in four (or maybe five years) we will graduate and move on.

Through those experiences we meet new people, form bonds, deal with whatever comes our way, and at the end of the journey we hope that the next stage in life will come just as easy at the past experiences before us.

My next experience after college was deciding to join CrossFit.

When joining CrossFit we enter as young (mentally and/or physically), eager individuals excited to learn new things without really knowing the expiration date to all of this. There is no, “Oh, I will give this four years and then move on.”

I joined the CrossFit world in January 2013 scared shitless, not knowing how I would be able to keep up with the athletes. I felt like a freshman joining a team full of seniors. After two or so months of CrossFit I met this sweet, blonde shorty at a happy hour and we hit it off immediately. I wanted to know everything about her and knew we would become the best of friends although we disagreed in music choices- and I only knew this because she had to leave the happy hour early to go to a country concert.

If you want to fit in, you do some crazy stuff. After only three months of CrossFit I signed up for the 2013 CrossFit Games Open. I have blogged about this experience, but this event, this five-week event, brought me closer to everyone in that gym than anything I had ever experienced. I felt like I belonged. I felt appreciated, welcomed, and valued.

By 2015 that sweet, blonde shorty who I met at the happy hour had become my best friend. We were inseparable until she got new job orders that moved her to Washington DC. Because of CrossFit, we met. I give CrossFit that credit for sure. We are still best friends and even when CrossFit is out of our lives we will still be best friends… forever, and CrossFit Girlfriends.

From 2015 to now, I have done some pretty amazing things in the CrossFit community. It only took time for me to grow my wings. I helped build my home gym’s social media, I coordinated an amazing holiday party, I brought people together when a member of our gym was in a horrible snowboarding accident, and I helped plan and coordinate a competition that has grown in popularity every year that inspires women to be better, stronger, and if they podium get some awesome shit that I personally take the time to put together.

But none of that matters. What matters is community. Over the past two years a special group of people have some how finagled their way into my heart. This group, or should I say, these #BadassBitches have completed my puzzle. Our puzzle is complete because each one of us is so different in our own special ways, but each piece fits perfectly. There is the one piece of the puzzle that has bigger dreams and aspirations than anyone I have ever met whose hair is so curly and her legs are so strong that she squats double what I can. This puzzle piece would most definitely have a piece of pizza on it. The other piece of this puzzle is this bootylicious, muscle queen who has a heart of gold that without CrossFit I have no idea if our paths would have ever crossed, but hell I am so glad that they did because she brings a whole new side of the world to mine. The other part of this 5-piece puzzle set is a piece that is bright and shiny but came from a much older, more wise box. This piece is young and eager to take on the world and she is wise beyond her years. Such a smart chick who can load you with a ton of scientific data, is a great listener, and has the best pain face I have ever seen. Finally, the last piece that fits into our puzzle is the piece that would include so many objects and small details that as a group, she brings unity. By this, what I mean is that she has experienced so many things that we have yet to experience, or never will. She has been married the longest, is a military wife, started CrossFit before all of us, and is one of the most motherly, loving, and stubborn people I have ever met. This no mustard, “you’re wearing that?,” hair flipping, brutally honest beauty completes this puzzle.

As a current CrossFit athlete, to me CrossFit is family. Over the past four, almost five years I have made the best set of friends. You sweat together, you cry together, you laugh together and even if you are at the gym for two hours and never pick up a piece of workout equipment, CrossFit is good for the soul and everyone is fully vested in becoming better not only as an athlete, but simply a better person.

To wrap this up, the time has come for me to graduate and to explore a new level. I am continuing CrossFit, but at a new location. This new location is scary, there are a lot of unknowns and I am now a freshman again. But this new location and opportunity has already made me feel appreciated, welcomed, and valued which I feel was stripped away recently from my gym that I called my second home for so long. Bring on the new, the unexpected and the exciting. And through trial I know that the community I have formed and the close bonds I have with people will continue to prosper even if we aren’t under the same roof.

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BeTheBiggerPerson

5 Jan

Colorado got hit with around six inches of snow last night. As many of you know, I work 25 miles away from home 6am-5pm. So, that means I wake up around 4:20a (not because I live in colorado, just because that is when Dan gets out of the shower). This morning, at around 5:15a I went out to dust off my car, and in the neighborhood we live in, we like to shovel our sidewalks because we have mail carriers who deliver mail to our door and are walking all day long. So, as I am shoveling around my car my next door neighbor opens his window and in a certain tone says, “Shut the f*** up, I’m trying to sleep.”

Well.. Okay, I know some of you may agree with this dude, and say shoveling at 5am is like mowing your lawn that early, but I was actually doing this to be able to get into my car without tracking tons of snow into my car, and also was clearing a pathway for the mail carrier before heading to work.

Although he slammed his window before I was even able to yell out the words, “Sorry,” I just had to tell myself that some people are in worse situations than I am. I need to keep telling myself:

-At least I have a job where I need to wake up that early

-At least I am able to shovel my own driveway

-I am thankful for the neighbor across the street who was also shoveling and with a welcoming smile on his face said, “Good morning!”

-I am hopeful that some of my shoveling helps the mail carrier

-This guy yelling at me may have a lot more going on than just wanting to rest his eyes

-Some people are not morning people

 

We need to all remember what we have and be thankful for what we can do and what we have. Although if it snows again, I will be shoveling and scraping my car at 5 in the morning and I hope to see that neighbor at some point before that and let him know that this is just how it is going to be and that I am sorry. And maybe offer him some earplugs.

2016

27 Dec

Although 2016 was arguably the happiest year of my life due to the fact that I got married to my prince charming, we found a church we love, and we were healthy (except for one long week with Dan having the stomach flu and another week of him having wrist surgery) this year has also been a pretty awful year when it comes to injuries, sickness, and loss of life. 2016 has literally been a complete roller coaster of emotions and for me- writing about it is the best way for me to express how I truly feel.

All of the instances that I am going to write about affected me and so many other people and this is giving me the opportunity to share with those people how much of an impact your incident has had on everyone.

It all sort of started in January. I remember reading about a horrible car accident on Facebook that a friend mine’s mom posted about. I remember I was sitting at my computer at home, just scrolling and when I saw this extra long post, instead of passing it by, I read it. I re-read it. And then as the tears started to swell, I called and texted anyone I knew who knew her to spread the word. Although this wasn’t a friend who I spent every weekend with, this was someone who I have played numerous games of beer pong with and corn hole. She was the person who got me even remotely interested in The Bachelor, and when I first met her I thought she was trying to steal my boyfriend away. haha. Today she is learning to walk again and has recently had surgery to be able to speak louder than she was previously able to. For someone who was internally decapitated, this is LEAPS AND BOUNDS what anyone had first anticipated, so for her- 2016 has got better as the months progressed, and her facebook and blog posts are great, but holy hell I will always remember how I felt and how many people just couldn’t believe it. We will always pray for you and root you on no matter what and I can’t wait to see what the future holds for this chick.

In April someone who holds a special place in my heart called me as I was parking my car to head into my yoga class and the moment I answered the phone I knew something was wrong. I turned my car off and she explained to me that her brother had passed away due to liver failure. I sat there in disbelief as I tried to calm her down, but at the same time was speechless. Her brother was there when I got drunk for the first time, always let me and all our friends come crash their parties, and was a genuine sweetheart. He was literally the brother I never had. I am pretty sure one summer I was at their families house every weekend, sleeping on the couch and he was there to pick on us, argue with me once I turned 21 of who would be DD and could tell you anything you wanted to know about cars or motorcycles. Once I hung up the phone with his sister, I immediately called my parents and completely broke down. I went into yoga and cried for the entire 60 minute class. I went home and cried in Dan’s arms. This person’s life was taken way too early and the happiness he brought to so many people is remarkable.

In November we went to our annual Friendsgiving and a couple was there who we see probably a handful of times a year at birthday parties, weddings or social gatherings and this year she was pregnant with their second child. I asked a lot of questions because their first pregnancy was tough, and due to that, she was closely monitored. About three weeks later their little baby boy was born at 25 weeks weighing 1lb 2oz and everyone was fighting for this little dude to make it. Five days later we found out that heaven gained another angel and although I never was able to meet him, his parents are amazing people and funds have been raised to help. This family in particular is so solid and are by each other’s sides at the drop of hat and it is amazing to see everyone coming together during such a hard time. We only hope for the best for you guys and we know you will make it through this.

And then December came. At the beginning of December, I learned that a newly engaged couple was in the hospital because he was diagnosed with Leukemia. I really didn’t know much about Leukemia, but I learned there are no stages, it is blood cancer, and in his case he found out because him and his fiance were both sick with colds and while she got better, he never did so when he went to the doctor he was immediately sent to the hospital and learned he had Leukemia the next day. And then soon after that, chemo started. I was able to visit this couple at St. Joe’s and learned that they also moved into a new home and just days after moving in, this all happened. Boxes packed, nothing really taken care of and one of their really close friends helped them unpack and get their life in order. She works for Denver Fire and has had a huge support system there, but looking back, being engaged and planning your wedding should be the best time of your life and when something like this happens you stop everything and deal with it. I just learned things are not going according to plan and chemo is not working, but I am hoping that when they start looking into clinical trials this works and they can start making positive progress. I really love his snapchats of their Great Dane, they make my day.

And lastly.. just yesterday I was getting ready to go to the grocery store and I got a text from a gym buddy asking how my Christmas was and then asked if she could call me. I figured she was calling to let me know she was planning some epic New Years Eve party. I answered the call and we chatted for a minute or two and then she said she had some ‘not-so-good’ news. Then I just figured she got a job promotion back to California where she is from. She went on to explain to me that while she was ‘killing it’ snowboarding on Friday she hit a jump and landed wrong and broke her back leaving her paralyzed from the waist down. Que the knotted stomach and the loss of words. I was just thankful I was sitting down. I had no idea how to react and didn’t really ask too many questions. We joked around about guys she was dating, and she explained to me that now she just needs to figure out how to live life on 4 wheels. Right away I asked if it was permanent, which it is and if there was anything I could do to help. She had asked me to tell a few people and to give her our gym owners contact info so she could “put her membership on hold until she figures some things out.” I just laughed and said, “of course.” I am hoping to go visit her soon and can’t wait to see that smiley face who makes up hashtags for anything. I keep thinking she will have the sickest wheelchair and will find a way to get back on the hills when she can.

Other life changing things happened this year, but after I got that call yesterday I just knew I had to write something down. Something to help me cope. Something to remind myself that it doesn’t fucking matter what material things you have, or if you are able to purchase organic foods, and you should always make time for family and friends because you never know what tomorrow holds and what could happen. Life is precious, so be kind to others and live the life you want to live because there are never any guarantees.

 

 

 

 

ClassPass

1 Aug

In January this deal came across for ClassPass that was $60 a month for three months and I jumped on it. I told myself once the price went to its normal monthly fee of $90 I would most likely cancel, but I stuck around for four more months after that. In my mind- if I attended 10 classes a month it was worth it and on average, each month I attended 10-13 classes a month. I attended so many different classes and fell in love with multiple studios.

The whole idea behind ClassPass is to get you to try different things, find what you love, and I am assuming companies hope that at some point, you’ll come on to their studio full time and become a member at their gym. With ClassPass you can only visit a studio three times  a month and once you find your favorites, you will most likely max that out. If you want more, you can pay a drop in, or like some- leave ClassPass and join that particular gym full time for unlimited access.

My monthly maxed out stuidos were always: Denver Sports Recovery, YogaPod, Pure Barre, The Barre Code, and Fierce45. Other studios I visited at least once a month included: EpicRyde, Kindness Yoga, FLEX Yoga + Barre, and The Dailey Method. Obviously, I am a big yoga and barre fan, but ClassPass also got me to try boxing for the first time ever, which although I wasn’t a fan, it got me out of my comfort zone. ClassPass also got my butt out of bed to work out. I have never really been an early morning workout fan, but I did multiple 6am & 7am workouts which were amazing.

So.. I mentioned earlier that Studios probably hope that at some point you’ll leave ClassPass and join them full time. I have two places that were at the top of my list. Denver Sports Recovery (DSR) and The Barre Code (TBC). Because Dan is already a member of DSR, I was able to be an add-on to his account for $50 a month, so due to the price, I joined DSR and plan to go 2-3x per week. But- I did receive an email from TBC for $60 for my first month and at some point I do plan to use that offer because I absolutely LOVED their HIIT class, and every time I left it made me feel awesome.

So- in no way am I trying to endorse or sell you on any of these things, but I talk to people about ClassPass often, and think that if you’re curious about what your next athletic endeavor may be- this could be it and I bet you’ll love it. I know I did.

PostWedding

7 Jul

Ahhhh. After a years worth of planning our wedding was exactly as I had expected and now people are asking me, “So now what are you going to do with your free time?” Before I even go into what the future holds I want to take a step back and fill people in on what truly made our wedding special and fill newly engaged woman on what to expect.

First, let me preface that our wedding was everything we wanted, but completely untraditional. We did a few things that kept with tradition, but if you were to ask anyone there what it was like, most people’s responses will make it sound more like a laid-back Sunday Funday. Which is exactly what we wanted to have.

Traditions we kept:

  • Cake Cutting – we were serving donut holes as dessert, but I wanted a Nothing Bundt Cake at the wedding as well and we got one of those to cut into and serve each other.IMG_5328
  • Traditional vows – At our ceremony, we had a set of traditional vows along with personal ones as well.
  • First Dances – We wanted to have our first dance together, and the mother/son & father/daughter dances because they were special to us and Dan had the song picked out before we were even engaged.
  • Toasts – We went in order of my dad, Dan’s best man, and then my maid of honor.
  • Grand Exit – Although we used uber which is not so traditional, we had a grand exit where people blew bubbles and we got taken away at the end of the day.
  • I had my “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.” Old: My mom took her old wedding dress and created a handkerchief out of it that I kept with me, in my pocket. (yes my dress had pockets) New: Necklace from my Dad, Borrowed: Diamond earrings from my Mom, Blue: My shoesBLAQ4288

Traditions we broke or stayed away from:

  • Dessert – No cake. Instead, we served donut holes and cereal to go with our brunch theme.
  • Garder/Flower Toss – I think this is very odd when your husband goes up your dress in front of your entire family, so we ditched the ideas and no one seemed to notice.
  • Officiant – Our very good friend got ordained online for free and was able to officiate our wedding. He did an amazing job and for us, we enjoyed having it be very personal.
  • First Look – I would say ‘first look’ photos are becoming more popular, but we broke the tradition of waiting until I walked down the aisle for us to see each other for the first time. We did first look photos at a park before the ceremony and I would HIGHLY recommend this, as it got all the jitters out before we had to go say our vows and it gave us some time to take it all in just the two of us.IMG_5302.PNG
  • No DJ – what?!?! No DJ? Are we crazy? Well- our wedding was during the day and I had this gut feeling most people wouldn’t dance, so we invested our own time in putting a playlist together on Apple Music. It worked and I was right – we didn’t have a big dance party, and that’s okay because instead, everyone played our ‘lawn’ games.

 

What we did that even some attendants may not have noticed:

  • I collected every single piece of china which included plates, tea cups, saucers, flatware and had to wash it after the wedding. We had 150 guests. That is a lot of dishes, but when it was all set out- it looked beautiful.IMG_5247
  • Our centerpieces were all my vision and created mostly by me. The champagne bottles, I collected and glued the twine on them, the table numbers were created using my cricut, the vases, corks, and coffee beans were donated to me and with my design, the flowers came from Felicity Allyse (all paper).

  • My bouquet was also created out of paper (and wood). IMG_5435
  • We didn’t give out gifts to our attendants. We both had decided the food/booze is enough and I have been to too many weddings where I can’t event tell you what their gift was to their attendants.
  • Thanks to my friend Judi who works weddings, a ‘find your seat’ board was left behind at another wedding and I took it and recreated my own seating arrangement board. The tags were created by The Purple Bride which I won at an event I went to so this board cost nothing to me, but was absolutely beautiful.IMG_5235
  • Along with a woman at my work we created my wedding announcements and I have received countless compliments on them.
  • Dan’s suit was tailored to him and he now owns the suit forever. It fit him great, and he looked amazing. Although a lot of people say weddings are all about the bride and her dress, we both wanted to feel extra good on our special day, and I tell ya- we did.
  • Most of the yard games were handmade by my parents. (Bags was a gift to us from Matt Jones).
  • Thanks to Becca, we had two Snapchat filters specifically created for our wedding:

 

 

So much went into our day, and I am sure I could write more- but from Daniel and me, we want to thank everyone for the well wishes, and we hope you all had fun! If you are a newly engaged couple I would love to answer any questions you may have!

-The Bullocks

 

WeirdBride

3 Jun

So, if you’re part of my life you know.. I am getting married. Brides-to-be do some weird shit. I have started putting together a list of things brides-to-be do that are not normal.

  • I ran outside on a hot day in long sleeves. Tan lines are my worst enemy right now.
  • I started tanning in a bed. I am paying a company to get fake tanned although I live in a state with 300 days of sunshine.
  • Two weeks before the wedding I decided no cleans or pull ups in CrossFit. Not that I bruise my collarbone easily or tear my hands, I just need to make sure that it doesn’t happen before I have to put on my dress and act like a lady.
  • I get my nails done. In the 5 years I have been with Dan, I have probably got 10 manicures and less pedicures. But now.. Every two weeks since April I have been getting my nails done to prepare.
  • I am whitening my teeth. Cuz.. photos.
  • 8 months ago I went to my orthodontist and told him my teeth shifted. I had to wear a plastic retainer with rubber bands for 3 months and then just at night for the rest of the time.
  • The holes had completely closed in my ears, but I decided I wanted to wear earrings at my wedding, so I shoved earrings in. ouch.
  • I wear my wedding shoes around in my house while I vacuum to break them in.
  • Facials. I love them, but normally would never spend money on them. Well, I have got two already and one more is scheduled.
  • Waxing. Oh, my eyebrows need shaped.. okay, let’s get those done too.
  • I dyed my hair. I have a lot of white hairs, and welp I guess now is the time to dye it.

To be continued.

 

6.16 update (10 days before the wedding)

  • I spent over $100 on (another) dress I will most likely never wear again, but fell in love with it when I tried it on
  • There comes a point when some things just don’t matter anymore. 1 year ago me: “The napkins must be petal pink.” today me: “As long as we have napkins I don’t care what color they are.”
  • We have updated more in our house over the past week than we have in the 3+ years we have lived in it. New windows. New fence. Paint. A sanded patio with soon-to-be purchased patio furniture. Maybe we should get married every year. Get our butts into gear.

RSVPChronicals

20 Apr

We did it. We sent out our wedding announcements!  122 envelopes later which included 15 to Germany, 74 to Colorado, 16 to Michigan, 4 to Florida, 3 to Texas, 3 to California, 2 to South Dakota, 1 to New York, 1 to New Jersey, 1 to Tennessee, 1 to Virginia, and 1 to Kentucky the RSVPs are now trickling in and it’s interesting to see how people fill out those funny little cards.

On our RSVP cards I put our address on it, added the stamp and told you the RSVP date. All you had to fill out was your name, your return address, and let me know if you’re coming. Seems simple right?

I may have confused some people, because on our RSVP cards at the bottom, I put “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” and on each one I would put number depending on the family. We are only allowing family children to the wedding, so this made it easy to explain to a friend, for example, Matt and Cassie Jones who have two kids and a third on the way that if it says, “We have reserved 2 seats in your honor, this meant that children were not invited.

But other than that it has been fun and entertaining seeing what people do and don’t do on their RSVP cards.

We have got back two RSVP cards that had the return address filled out, the names filled in properly but they forgot to check the “accepts with pleasure” box or the “declines with regret” box, so I had to ask…

One RSVP card came back without the names filled out, but luckily the return address was on it, so I knew who it came from.

Another one came back looking like her dog got hold of it, chewed it up, spit it back out and then sent it.

I have also unfortunately realized that the “__ seats in your honor” does not automatically register to people that children are not invited. I have had two people respond with their name and their kid instead of husband/wife. This part is the hardest. I had secretly hoped that no one would be confused by this, but it has come up and I admit- I don’t have kids so I probably seem stuck up to not have friend’s kids attend the wedding, but after a lot of discussion with family and our caterer we came to the decision to allow family children, but not friend’s children. I have been to one too many weddings where a kid gets out of hand and  unfortunately that is something I remember. Although I have wanted to change the rules for some people to make sure they are able to attend, I have also realized that if I change the rule for one, I have to change the rule for everyone. And in the long run I hope everyone understands.

Some good things that people have done if you take my sister for example. On her card I put a 2 in the spot of seats, and although she isn’t dating anyone she did put on the card, “guest unknown,” so to me I will still include a plus 1 in our catering numbers. Thank you.

Another awesome thing someone did was her husband is unable to attend, but she can make it, so she took it upon herself, crossed out the 2 and put a 1 and only put her name on the line of who is attending. Thank you.

We have just under a month to get back the RSVPs, but from talking to other brides I know this is one of the most stressful parts because people forget to RSVP, wait until last minute, or worst case scenario they never even received the announcement. But luckily in todays modern world I don’t mind calling or texting the people I don’t hear back from come May 15th asking if they by chance sent in their RSVP card and get an answer that way. But if you are my friend or family member who we have invited- don’t be that person. Send me your RSVP. Please.

 

I may be adding to this post as I receive the RSVP cards in the mail.