We did it. We sent out our wedding announcements! 122 envelopes later which included 15 to Germany, 74 to Colorado, 16 to Michigan, 4 to Florida, 3 to Texas, 3 to California, 2 to South Dakota, 1 to New York, 1 to New Jersey, 1 to Tennessee, 1 to Virginia, and 1 to Kentucky the RSVPs are now trickling in and it’s interesting to see how people fill out those funny little cards.
On our RSVP cards I put our address on it, added the stamp and told you the RSVP date. All you had to fill out was your name, your return address, and let me know if you’re coming. Seems simple right?
I may have confused some people, because on our RSVP cards at the bottom, I put “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” and on each one I would put number depending on the family. We are only allowing family children to the wedding, so this made it easy to explain to a friend, for example, Matt and Cassie Jones who have two kids and a third on the way that if it says, “We have reserved 2 seats in your honor, this meant that children were not invited.
But other than that it has been fun and entertaining seeing what people do and don’t do on their RSVP cards.
We have got back two RSVP cards that had the return address filled out, the names filled in properly but they forgot to check the “accepts with pleasure” box or the “declines with regret” box, so I had to ask…
One RSVP card came back without the names filled out, but luckily the return address was on it, so I knew who it came from.
Another one came back looking like her dog got hold of it, chewed it up, spit it back out and then sent it.
I have also unfortunately realized that the “__ seats in your honor” does not automatically register to people that children are not invited. I have had two people respond with their name and their kid instead of husband/wife. This part is the hardest. I had secretly hoped that no one would be confused by this, but it has come up and I admit- I don’t have kids so I probably seem stuck up to not have friend’s kids attend the wedding, but after a lot of discussion with family and our caterer we came to the decision to allow family children, but not friend’s children. I have been to one too many weddings where a kid gets out of hand and unfortunately that is something I remember. Although I have wanted to change the rules for some people to make sure they are able to attend, I have also realized that if I change the rule for one, I have to change the rule for everyone. And in the long run I hope everyone understands.
Some good things that people have done if you take my sister for example. On her card I put a 2 in the spot of seats, and although she isn’t dating anyone she did put on the card, “guest unknown,” so to me I will still include a plus 1 in our catering numbers. Thank you.
Another awesome thing someone did was her husband is unable to attend, but she can make it, so she took it upon herself, crossed out the 2 and put a 1 and only put her name on the line of who is attending. Thank you.
We have just under a month to get back the RSVPs, but from talking to other brides I know this is one of the most stressful parts because people forget to RSVP, wait until last minute, or worst case scenario they never even received the announcement. But luckily in todays modern world I don’t mind calling or texting the people I don’t hear back from come May 15th asking if they by chance sent in their RSVP card and get an answer that way. But if you are my friend or family member who we have invited- don’t be that person. Send me your RSVP. Please.
I may be adding to this post as I receive the RSVP cards in the mail.